Social Justice as the Focus

I have come to believe in my ten years experience of homeschooling/unschooling, that the central component of any curriculum should be a call to kindness. To instill our children with an implacable urge to help others--to social justice, should be our primary focus. Nothing is more important, not math and certainly not grammar. In fact, the value of math and grammar as well as other traditional educational pursuits, should be directly linked to accomplishing the pursuit of service to others. If my daughter becomes a writer, I hope her work will enrich the world by calling to attention the gross inequities of gender, class, and race within her culture. If she becomes a homeschooling mother, the same lessons can be taught to her children. If my son becomes a scientist (as I believe he plans to do), his work should be reflective of concern and respect for the natural world in which he lives. Everything done must be done with conscience. This can be one marked difference between (and one argument for) home education over traditional formal education.

Of course, raising children who believe in their ability to effect the world around them has nothing to do with fear. In fact, fear will disable them, render them helpless (at least within their own minds) to change the world around them. Unfortunately, much of the literature, film, and television which might increase their moral consciousness is simultaneously terrifying for children (and adults).

So, how do you raise your children to have a heart for the earth and its inhabitants, while at the same time instilling a sense of peace and tranquility within them? I've compiled a list of activities and books which have worked for us. Of course, this list is just the beginning, but it's a good beginning:

1. There is no substitute for spending time outside in a quiet, peaceful setting every single day that the weather allows. When my family becomes lax in this area, we also become miserable and selfish. Also, I would recommend that you spend the time outside with your children as well. While it is tempting to send them outside in order to have some quiet time or get some work done, don't do it! Walk with them in the woods or in your local park. It will do everyone so much good, and the rest of your intellectual efforts will reflect the benefits of time outside as well.

2. Do yoga with them (especially on days when you cannot get outside). There are some wonderful books about yoga with children which can be very helpful and inspiring. My personal favorites include: Storytime Yoga: Teaching Yoga to Children Through Story by Sydney Solis, Children's Book of Yoga: Games & Exercises Mimic Plants & Animals & Objects by Thia Luby, and Child's Garden of Yoga by Baba Hari Dass. There are so many other great books out there as well, but these are especially good ones.

3. Model the kind of heart you want to see in your children. If they hear you judging others for ridiculous reasons (or for any), and see you for the majority of your time with a scowl on your face, they will do the same. Likewise, if they never see you working in your community to effect change (no matter how small), they will never have a model to follow--they won't see such behavior as a routine part of their lives. Something as simple as remembering to send birthday cards and letters to loved ones can go a very long way in instilling a sense of communal responsibility in your children.

4. Read to them-- beautiful books about the world they live in. Some of my favorites which are profound AND encouraging include: anything by Elsa Beskow, Appalachia: The Voices of Sleeping Birds by Cynthia Rylant and Barry Moser, The Hundred Dresses by Eleanor Estes and Louis Slobodkin, and any children's books by Toni Morrison. Everyday Acts Against Racism: Raising Children in a Multiracial World by Maureen Reddy is one good resource for incorporating inclusive activities and language into your everyday lives.

Finally, I would caution you about jumping in with two feet and volunteering for any and every service-related activity you can find. Remember that home is an important component of home education, and that while it is good to explore the world with your children, it is not good to overextend yourself or them.

From A.S. Neill:

People are always saying to me, "But how will your free children ever adapt themselves to the drudgery of life?" I hope that these free children will be pioneers in abolishing the drudgery of life.

She'll make you an offer you can't refuse...

Ve-ddy In-teresting...

To read an article about unschooling as feminist resistance to the mainstream, click here.

An Excerpt from Homeschooling Our Children, Unschooling Ourselves by Alison McKee

Although the activities of our children, as I have described them throughout this book, indicate that neither child spent hours grappling with traditional curriculum content, each was becoming exposed quite naturally to subjects. The difficulty was ours: we had to learn to look beyond labels to understand this. As we dissected Georgina's and Christian's experiences, we discovered that social studies, math, science, language arts, music, reading, and health could not be separated out as distinct subjects of study in our children's unschooled lives. In fact, what had been misleading to us, and caused us to distrust our children's natural inclinations to learn, had been our need to apply subject matter labels to their ever-boundless learning ventures. When we finally understood this, it became much easier for us to let go of our worries and trust that our children would fare well no matter what they chose to do.

John Holt

To read a 1980 Mother Earth News interview with unschooling founder John Holt, click here.

Unschooling Conferences!

I think we're going to go to this one in Ohio, but there are other midwesternish conferences in Wisconsin, Tennessee, Iowa, Minnesota, Chicago, Illinois, and many, many more! You can find a comprehensive listing of homeschool/unschool conferences here. Be sure to note that those conferences which are inclusive to unschooling have a colorful little symbol next to them.

StellaBella

Sometimes, it is a challenge to parent a child with such a fierce mind of her own, but I believe that her stubborn nature will serve her well in her life. We are born with the emotional equipment that we will need for our individual lives, and trying to squelch a child's natural inklings usually ends in that same child having to relearn his or her role in the world. Haven't we all experienced this? Having to remember how to say no when something feels wrong? Or how to respond honestly to difficult questions? Stella was not born full of feist unnecessarily.

Sandra Dodd (on connections)

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Getting Started

I am entirely certain that twenty years from now we will look back at education as it is practiced in most schools today and wonder that we could have tolerated anything so primitive. --John W. Gardner

Initially, I suppose I should start with our philosophy, so this is it. We educate our children at home because we believe it is the best thing to do. We believe that generally, nobody could do a better job at showing children the world they live in than their parents. We don't educate them at home because we are frightened of certain ideologies and mean to keep our children cloistered. To the contrary, we educate them at home because being at home gives children a center and allows them more time to explore, and because we enjoy being around them!

Our methods are eclectic. Sometimes we use structured texts, sometimes we don't. We call ourselves unschoolers because we agree whole-heartedly with John Holt's gentle and holistic philosophy, but this doesn't mean that we are determined never to use a workbook. We do what feels right, and we foster and facilitate our children's natural curiosities. Of course, this requires being open to re-evaluation of our methods every single day.

Blossom? Is that you?

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Maddy-Lion in the Labyrinth